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What is Love?

1/2/2018

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This post stems from a conversation Katherine and I were having on our way home this past weekend. I forget how exactly we got on "girly-blogs" and my general distaste for such herd-mentality inducing blogs, relying on other women to tell us what we are supposed to think, how to feel, dress, eat, etc... Most importantly to this particular post is the state of the heart and relationships. Bottom line, everyone is different and will have to deal with relationships in a variety of fashion--how I (attempt) to keep my head and heart in line may not be an effective measure for you. That is not to say that life and love and relationships are arbitrary or subjective. There is one set of principles that goes for ALL of life. The Bible. The Ten Commandments.

That brings us then to the question: what is love? 

Maybe I ought to define love. I mean both non-romantic love and romantic love. The how we are to relate to one another, irregardless of our attraction or lack of attraction for different people.

So, love. What is it? At it's core, all types of love are the same. Very simply put, love is keeping the Law of God towards each other. Your sister isn't feeling well...you love her by unselfishly (uncomplainingly) picking up her tasks. You think you are "in love" with a particular guy...so, you love him by not tempting him...by seeking his best interest. 

Those are very generic examples, but how do those two examples keep the Law toward one another?

The first one could fall under the category of the 5th Commandment: "Honor thy father and mother..." The Westminster Larger Catechism points out that, "The duties of equals are, to regard the dignity and worth of each other, in giving honour to go one before another; and to rejoice in each others’ gifts and advancement, as their own."

So by picking up someone's slack, we are giving honour one before another...

The second one can also fall under the 5th Commandment, but also the 7th: "Thou shalt not commit adultery." WLC #138: "T
he duties required in the seventh commandment are, chastity in body, mind, affections, words, and behavior; and the preservation of it in ourselves and others; watchfulness over the eyes and all the senses; temperance, keeping of chaste company, modesty in apparel; marriage by those that have not the gift of continency, conjugal love, and cohabitation; diligent labor in our callings; shunning all occasions of uncleanness, and resisting temptations thereunto."

So love...it's not a squishy feeling. It's our job or duty--our daily calling one to another, to serve one another even when we do not feel like it. Does it come with the glowing feelings? Sure...but love isn't based on the warm feelings. Those are transient.  Do I always feel fuzzy about my family members? In all out, flat honesty--no. Am I to always love them? Yes. 

So love, no matter what type of love it is--familial, friendly, that to the stranger you run into in the grocery, or toward "that guy" you like--true and faithful love is based ONLY in the love and law of God Himself. We cannot rightly love unless we realize that love is obedience to the law of our Sovereign God. It's that simple. 

Are you struggling with loving people--whether not as well as you should or by an attraction to someone? The answer, simple, though at times hard to implement, is asking oneself, "How am I keeping the commandments to/for/about this person/situation?"


We fail. I fail DAILY. But God grants forgiveness and a desire to live more and more after His image. 

That's the funny thing about true Christianity. It's not complicated. It's really quite simple and straight-forward. Easy it is not. No one ever said, "Simple is easy", or if they did, they were thinking only of things like jig-saw puzzles. Straight lines are simple, but very difficult for me to draw--even with a ruler. God's Law is rather like our ruler...my sins and failings (anti-love of God and my fellow man) are like the wiggles in my line--the bumps where my clumsy fingers protrude over the ruler and interrupt the line.

What is love? Keeping the Ten Commandments. May I remember this and implement this in my own life in this upcoming year....

      Racheal

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Mum
1/3/2018 10:57:13 am

Yes! The Scripture tells us that they will know us by our love...that is love one for another...not some Christianized legalism or a liberalized good works. Both obedience and works are required of us but in the context of Scripture. I appreciate you pointing out the words of Jesus, "if you love me keep my commandments", it is by these that we are to govern ourselves. And as you say, it is really that simple, and it is a lifetime process, part of maturing and growing in faith and character. Spiritualized feminism too easily ends up in legalism, which is greatly warned against in the Bible. Reading the Scripture is so freeing...

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1/3/2018 01:31:17 pm

We as Christians are dependent on the grace of Christ to make us loving people. For Christian love does not come naturally...

"Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, endures all things." I (Cor. 13:4-7)

Just listened to this very good sermon this morning, on "Love Is":

https://www.sermonaudio.com/sermoninfo.asp?SID=111917185866

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